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You don’t always know. We think gifts are obvious. We think if something is real, it would have been visible earlier. We think we would have known. But sometimes…the person you’re sitting next to—the person you’ve built a life with—has gifts that haven’t had permission to exist yet. Last night, someone asked me a question about Kevin’s gifts. And I had to stop. Because the truth is…for the first 20 years of our marriage, I had almost no idea. This is the same man who once loc

My mom knew she should leave. She just couldn't. I was 23 years old, two kids already, sitting in a car in a parking lot outside an attorney's office. She was too weak to drive by then. The pain medications made everything slower, heavier. She'd been living with a Stage 3 cancer diagnosis for five years and she was still holding it all together the way she always had — which is to say, she was holding everything. She had a manila envelope in her hand. Paperwork for a financia

There’s a story about Sam Walton that stuck with me. His landlord gave him 90 days to leave the store he built. So he spent the next 40 years building something no one could take from him. I didn’t get 90 days. I got years of slow realization. I grew up in family business. Multiple businesses. My dad was a serial entrepreneur—construction, real estate, storage, trucking, anything that could be built, scaled, or figured out. And I loved it. At 18, I was given a furniture and

For years, I ran our family like a well-intentioned dictator. Not harsh — just decisive. Clear expectations. Strong structure. Rooted traditions in central Wisconsin. I carried vision. I set direction. I required responsibility. And then we disrupted everything. We left the rooted version of life. We shifted into furnished rentals. We loosened structure. We stopped optimizing the environment. And I did something uncomfortable: I took my hands off the wheel. What Happened When

For years, Kevin and I were working on our marriage — but we didn’t know what we were working on. We read a LOT! Patrick Lencioni’s Getting Naked Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements. Anthony de Mello’s The Way to Love. Bradley Nelson’s The Emotion Code. At one point, we were reading 20+ books a year. We mapped fears. We worked with coaches. We studied DISC profiles. We did marriage intensives. We were improving. But we were still looping. What we didn’t yet understand was

When life gets messy — really messy — most people don’t know where to turn. And when the person you love is the one spiraling, it can feel like your whole world is collapsing around you. You might be the spouse, the partner, or the adult child of someone who’s reached a breaking point. Maybe they’re caught in addiction, burnout, or emotional patterns that no longer make sense. Maybe you’ve tried therapy, coaching, or boundaries that don’t seem to hold. You’re not alone. And t

Hi friend, If the last few years have taught us anything, it’s this: Your intuition is not crazy. It’s your compass. When we first followed ours, it didn’t make much sense. Sell everything? Move to Mexico? Take an 18-month sabbatical with five boys? It sounded unreasonable — even irresponsible — on paper. But deep down, it felt like peace. And every time we’ve trusted that peace — even when it didn’t look logical — it’s led us exactly where we needed to go. A quiet whisper sa

…and how clearing fear in the body opens the road ahead. Have you ever tried to lift your gaze toward the future—only to immediately run into a wall of “Yeah, but…”? It’s almost comical how predictable it is. Someone asks about your vision. You start to feel the spark. You get a glimpse of something beautiful, expansive, meaningful. And then the mind chimes in with all the reasons it’s impossible: “Too risky.” “Too expensive.” “Too irresponsible.” “Too unpredictable.” “What w

In the world of entrepreneurship, we talk a lot about strategy, systems, data, and execution. And all of that matters. But beneath every great decision, every well-timed risk, and every resilient leader, there is something quieter at work. An inner knowing. A sense of timing. A discernment that doesn’t come from spreadsheets alone. Today, we might call this intuition. Scripture has always called it wisdom. Intuition Is Not Mystical — It’s Discernment One of the biggest misund

(A true 1999-meets-2025 reflection) We didn’t meet online. We didn’t swipe. We didn’t analyze compatibility charts or compare personality types before we said hello. We met the old-fashioned way — in person, in 1999, at a church convention. Kevin and I were standing together and talking in a group. I looked him in the eyes, and he held my gaze. That was it. Something clicked. No bio. No curated list of interests. No algorithm. No seven-second swipe window. Just presence. Just

You can love someone deeply… and still feel stuck. You can build a life, a business, a family — and still wonder if you’re meant to keep doing this the way it’s been. We see this all the time with the leaders and couples we support: They’ve done the work. They’ve read the books. They’ve tried to communicate better. And yet… the same cycles keep returning. The tension. The disconnection. The ache of knowing there should be more — but not knowing how to find it again. If that’s

In every generation, God calls a few to build what has never been seen before. He called Noah to build an ark in the middle of a drought. He called Abraham to leave everything familiar. He called Moses to speak when he didn’t believe he could. He called Mary to carry a promise that made no sense. And He called Jesus—the carpenter’s son—to heal a world that didn’t believe it needed healing. Each of them faced the same question that so many visionary founders ask today: “Who am

Beloved community, There are moments in life when we sense we are being prepared for something long before we understand what it is. A quiet whisper. A subtle nudge. A feeling that life is rearranging us for a purpose we haven’t yet named. That’s how it was for us. We always knew we were better together — but we didn’t know why. We didn’t know our work would become a refuge for others. We didn’t know that the deepest parts of our story would help people find their own clarity

There’s a moment — often when we create space, sometimes desperate — when we realize that what’s been happening for years can’t keep happening anymore. You’ve held it together. You’ve carried the business, the team, the family, the marriage. But lately, the strain is showing. The conversations feel heavier. The hope feels thinner. You might even be wondering what else is out there — because the solutions you’ve tried haven’t worked. This is where our work begins. When You’ve